Let them know they're beautiful (Lesson 2 of I Am…So You Don't Have to Be)

This week’s focus was on seeing ourselves as beautiful—the way God sees us.    These were the questions to be answered:

What is your initial response when anyone suggests you are beautiful? Do you find you engage in a lot of negative ‘self-talk’? How much of your thought life does this form of thinking consume? Has it ever occurred to you that you are a City Girl? How do you plan to use this knowledge? In what ways has your view of Godly beauty changed as a result of these Scriptures?


I praise God that, after many years of struggle, I can truthfully say that I’ve been delivered from thinking lowly of myself, and I’m quick to rid my mind of negativity.   However, there is a part of this lesson that ministered to me so sweetly.   The words were as follows:


…we are still ‘esteeming Him not’ today by continuing the beating that He has already taken. Some examples of how we do this are: Negative self-talk when we look in the mirror or step on the scale, mentally abusing our own intelligence, nurturing toxic relationships, and engaging in self-destructive behavior are but a few. Remember, thinking lowly of ones self is still thinking of oneself more than God. Reverse pride is still pride and the most dangerous form of idolatry.


This was so on point for me after ministering to the teenagers on Sunday.   Personally, I’ve worked very hard to rid my life of people whose words don’t uplift, whose lives don’t inspire, or whose walk is stagnant.   As I spoke to those kids, it became so important to me to impress upon them to steer clear of those who can’t speak positively into their lives.   Sadly enough, it occurred to me that in many cases, the people who could encourage them the most are perhaps the ones pouring the least into them.   I told my husband how sad it is that most of these kids talk to their feet, they mumble, and almost never make eye contact.  I see parents dropping them off for mid-week service, and sometimes even on Sundays, and zooming off the parking lot.  I also thought about my daughter, who’s only a year younger than several of these kids.   I thought finally about myself as a young teenager, so anxious to have friends, so concerned about not being labeled the “smart girl”, “nerd”, or “geek”.   Teenage years can be painful; when I hear people discuss homeschool and missing out on peer socialization, I think, exactly!   The less time our kids spend with kids who convince them to conform to whatever is cool for the day, the more time I have to pour into them exactly what I tried to pour into the teens on Sunday:


Jeremiah 1:5:   Before I formed thee in the belly I knew thee; and before thou camest forth out of the womb I sanctified thee, and I ordained thee a prophet unto the nations.


Psalm 139:14  I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.


Hebrews 2:6-7  What is man that thou art mindful of him?  Or the son of man, that thou visiteth him?  Thou madest him a little lower than the angels; thou crownedst him with glory  and honour, and didst set him over the works of thy hands.


I’ve also reflected on bubbebobbie’s comment to my Lesson 1 post about the planting of seeds and the slow harvest.   I’m looking forward to going back to that class, and in God’s time, seeing lifted heads, lifted eyes, and lifted spirits.   If I minister but one message to those youngsters, let it be that they are beautiful to God, and should be beautiful to themselves.  Please pray with me for our teens, as this is the time that they take on more and more independence, and sometimes less and less of God in their behaviors and their relationships.

6 comments on “Let them know they're beautiful (Lesson 2 of I Am…So You Don't Have to Be)

  1. Kekoa says:

    will you be my freind?

  2. Angelheart says:

    Hi I enjoyed you article today. I wanted to tell you of an analogy a friend told me and I used with our teen girls. You place 3 cups. An old Glass, a mug and a tea cup. Ask the girls which they feel like at different times. Then let them know that God sees them and you see them as the tea cup. Very powerful .


  3. bubbebobbie says:

    Oh I loved that Line. What a great line. Really I love that line!

    So I am gonna try and answer your questions.
    What is your initial response when anyone suggests you are beautiful?I say thank you and remember what I have one so I can do that again. (:

    Do you find you engage in a lot of negative 'self-talk'? I am a pretty positive person. Even before Jesus, I was positive (positively walking in sin and fooling myself, but positive)

    How much of your thought life does this form of thinking consume? I am thinking about this and deciding my self talk as a teen was mostly demonstrated as wonder? I wonder if he likes me? I wonder why she doesn't ? How can I change so they do?
    Has it ever occurred to you that you are a City Girl? Oh Yes! I am grateful for the part of that idenity that gave me street smarts, but being the age I am, I am sure the definition has changed. I was a Hippy city girl that long for communal living with barefeet, babies and gardens. Now I live in the rural mountains of CA barefoot with grandbabies! Jesus made the vision so different! But the city girl is still a country girl wanna be, thus my fair pictures are of me watching, not doing!

    How do you plan to use this knowledge? I pass in on. There is good knowledge that comes from your past. my life verse is 2 Cor 1:3-5 for a reason. I really have been down that road before you.

    In what ways has your view of Godly beauty changed as a result of these Scriptures? I love that I am created for God's Glory. That each and every part of me He knows full well.

    The things I didn't know as a teen? I didn't know (honestly) that sex and love were not the same thing. If you can teach your teens that the love they crave is not the sex they settle for you will save them from emmense heartache. Also, a little Christian knowledge with poor definitions is deadly. I remember having a conversation with someone in High School that probably was trying to share the gospel with me. She asked how can I sleep with so many guys? I responded, "well, didn't Jesus command us to love everybody? I am just doing my part! So define EVERYTHING!

    I am so loving this post! I hope you all have a blessed Father's Day.

    Because of Jesus, Bobbie

  4. Anonymous says:

    'Lifted heads, lifted eyes, lifted spirits…'

    I love your vision for these kids…it is one we should all have for ourselves! Got a new cd called, "Glory Revealed" My favorite song on it has a line that says, "You shall lift up your face without shame, you shall firmly stand with no fear inside"…The thoughts of that kind of freedom take my breath ….

    Enjoying following you in this study! :))


  5. AHappyHome says:

    Oh you are getting deep into this study and it is good. I totally agree: "steer clear of those who can’t speak positively into their lives". This is so true for us as well. And your blog looks wonderful. And I want to come to your party 🙂


  6. PumpkinsMomma says:

    Another great post. I used to beat myself up alot, repeatng all the things my mom had said to me, but hoping one day someone would think I am a good person…

    I know that God loves me and cherishes me, even with all my faults, but some days are stil lhard – a struggle to keep in perspective who I am and who God wants me to be!!!

    thanks for sharing your htoughts,

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