For those of you waiting on the third (and final) installment of this series, it is published here, and may God bless your hands and heart to do His will, whatever it may be. Remember, commit to the LORD whatever you do, and he will establish your plans. Proverbs 16:3
For those of you who are considering adding yet another item to your full plates (though this is a potentially lucrative addition), you might be interested in my recent article on Heart of the Matter regarding starting your own home-based business. Enjoy and be blessed!
My husband made an observation some months back while trying to send me an online article for later reading: it is hard to just send someone an article anymore. The assumption is that everyone has a Twitter and/or Facebook account. So, very recently, he bit the proverbial bullet and became a Twitter enrollee. After a few weeks of orientation/ experimentation, he and I recently had a conversation that went something like this:
Hubby: “I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. I can’t get anyone to respond to me!”
Me: “Well, who are you following?”
Hubby lists the few people/ organizations that he follows.
Me: “It looks like you’re following people who don’t tweet that much, or people who only tweet as PR for their jobs. You might have to back up and just find people who share your same interests, and people who actually tweet. You might search according to your hobbies or…”
I felt funny advising him as to how to find people and make friends (?) via social networking. I’m very much a novice, and there’s much that I need to learn. Initially hesitant, if not outright suspicious, of social media, it took me a while to embrace these tools—and I do mean tools—as being potentially effective. I never had a MySpace account. I’ve made conscious decisions not to join Linked In; I don’t “Digg” anything, nor do I “Stumble Upon” anything. At this point, I am strictly a blog/Facebook/ Twitter person.
I’ll confess that, when first introduced to Twitter, I didn’t contemplate getting involved that much. I signed up for it somewhat by accident, but was hooked after seeing how I could quickly keep up with a friend and/or family member or two. It took me a while to pick up the art of stating something about myself in 140 characters, and then making it entertaining enough for people to actually appreciate it and respond. It took a bit more time for me to extend myself past people that I knew and learn how to seek out people that had my same interests.
Facebook I gave a lot more thought to before signing up. I’d heard so much about the privacy issues, and there are some concerns. I grow concerned each time I sign onto CNN.com and see the articles that my friends recommended: how does CNN know who my Facebook friends are? I grow concerned when students say to me, “I looked you up on Facebook…” It’s an invasion of my privacy, as far as I’m concerned, and it makes me wary about employers and others who look and make judgments.
Another point of confusion for me was that no one could tell me how their Facebook account differed that much from their blog. By that time, I’d put so much energy into developing my blog, and I thought that one more social network would take me totally away from those items that I consider to be more about purpose. I decided, slowly but surely, to give Facebook a try after several friends in small business endeavors convinced me that I was missing out from a business standpoint by not getting on board.
I probably put more way more thought into all of this than was necessary. Everything doesn’t have to be a heady exercise in reflection, or is it a life-and-death decision regarding typing a few lines about what’s going in your life. “Tweeting” and mini-blogging (which I consider Facebook to be) can be fun, efficient, and in its own way relaxing. I get that. In fact, I played around in the early stages of watching the Superbowl, tweeting about all my observations. One of my followers later pointed out that Christina Aguilera’s botching of the lyrics to the National Anthem got more press than the latest news from Cairo (‘good to know we have our priorities straight,’ she posts). She’s right, but hey, it was funny for the time that I stayed online, and I needed the respite as I watched my Steelers go down for the count. But in order to be a good steward of the time God gives me, I debated internally, and rather seriously, how I might use all of this to my advantage without becoming a slave to any of it. I know people who spend a significant portion of their day on Facebook, or blogging, or on some other point of connectivity via the web. I know some who pay outrageous phone bills just to stay in touch with it all. I know the amount of time that it takes me to craft a blog entry, which is the reason that I only post, at most, twice weekly. I just choose to do something different with the time I have.
So, at the end of the day, how do I use social media networks?
Blogging—still my favorite of all the ways to connect over the Internet, I pen my heart and mind in the hopes of ministering to others like me, making real connections, and allowing my customers to meet the person behind the products.
Facebook—FB is great for linking with friends and family and sharing photos and quick pics of life as it exists here. Its major function for me, however, is to share short stories and links that interest me, to find out more about my FB friends, and to jot down thoughts and happenings that don’t necessarily warrant an extensive blog entry.
Twitter—Twitter is what it is—140 characters to very quickly say what you are doing right now. For one who talks to herself quite a bit, this is a neat way to get some of those random thoughts down in one spot, and where else can you meet amazing business connections by telling someone how absolutely uneventful your life really is :-)?
Recently in her 31 Days of Blog Ministry, Amy Bayliss posted about blog purpose and niche, and suggested reading Hebrews 13 as a place of prayer and seeking God about your blog’s purpose. This was a blog-changing, if not a life-changing, exercise for me. For some strange reason, I didn’t like my blog being labeled as a “marriage and family” blog, as one reader referred to it; I wanted to be something more. But as I read through Hebrews 13, it began to resonate with me that marriage and family are high callings, and viewing the writing of them as boring was a rejection of the gifts and blessings I’ve been given. If I can eloquently depict a house where God is first and foremost, where peace exists and health and wholeness reign in spite of all that isn’t here, I am indeed blessed and highly favored. Many cannot. Comments and “likes” should never be the concern when we are aligned with God’s assignment for us. He role models the nature of truly effective ministry, reaching one here, changing the life of ten there, and teaching twelve at a most intimate level. So, having said that, here are the guidelines I use for how I interact on any social medium:
- Make straight paths for your feet… Romans 12:13 (Bullard living translation: Be clear in your communication)
- Follow peace with all men, and holiness, without no moan shall see the Lord…Hebrews 13:?
- Let brotherly love continue…Hebrews 13:1
- The Lord is my helper, and I will fear not what man shall do unto me…Hebrews 13:6
- …the fruit of our lips give thanks to His name…Hebrews 13:15
- Making you perfect in every good work to do His will, working in you that which is well pleasing in His sight…Hebrews 13:21
As I stated before, by no stretch of the imagination would anyone call me an expert; I’m still learning so much about how to navigate these networks and how to put them to best use for my wants and needs. These are simply my ramblings musings, and my own follow-up thoughts from my husband’s tweeting dilemma. I am curious, though: how do you use social media?
We didn’t get much snow in Texas, but this was our one taste of a winter wonderland while in Georgia for the holidays:
If I tried to pen what has been our life since my last post, it would seem uneventful, but these days have actually been anything but. In the last few days, we…
1) started school again for the 2nd semester
2) rearranged 2/3 of the upstairs furniture
3) painted the youngest daughter’s room
4) revamped my husband’s and son’s closets
The whole paint/ closet cleanout/ urniture rearrangement was a Malachi 3: 8-12 blessing for us after a friend decided to get rid of the furniture she’d kept in storage for years. It all began with her offering my husband a number of suits that she’d kept after the death of her father. This man was what the kids call an “OG” (original gangster–LOL), so among the nicer church suits were also a number of pastel purples and fire engine reds with the shoes and hats to match. I found out later that the red suit matched his red Mercedes convertible–too much. Anyway, in ridding her high-priced storage area of the suits, she began to look at furniture. She then offered us a formal sofa and love seat–something we’ve never invested in given our largely unused formal living room area. Right now, we have our desktop computer in that room, and a sofa that the dog likes to sleep on when he thinks we’re not looking. Now, we have a beautiful formal set which has the same cherry wood, traditional style of the dining room set given to us after my father passed. With the addition of fabric, this area is going to be fabulous! I just pray that we can preserve this WHITE furniture in a house with a busy 7-year-old and 2 dogs who think we’re just here to make them feel at home. I won’t post a picture right now with the house in disarray; I’ll save the shots for a before/ after photo experience.
Well, with an almost brand new set in our now sincerely formal living room, we moved the dog’s secret bed-with-no-breakfast upstairs to the game room. The futon that once provided extra bedding for our kids’ guest was now available for our son’s bedroom, giving him the extra room that he wanted to spread out those increasingly long legs. His twin bunk beds now grace the room of the youngest, who’d had a dresser drawer that had seen better days. I’d made a decision to get her a captain’s bed, the one with the drawers underneath. How was I going to buy all this furniture, in light of everything else we needed to do, without debt? Problem solved.
I write to take my boast in the Lord. We’ve had such a tremendous turnaround going into the new year until my head spins just thinking about what the last week has brought us. In addition to what I’ve listed above, there’ve been business partnerships, contracts, speaking engagements–so much to share that I’ll have to spread it out over the weeks and months to come. Stay tuned!
Our pastor’s words at the beginning of this year have come from 2 Kings 17, and the message has been so powerful in our lives. Last year’s word was based on being a priest in the home/ community/ workplace, etc.; this year’s focus is what happens to the priest (us) as we step into the presence of the King. I’ve been basking in His Word and enjoying the fruits of this season. There are a number of confessions we’re making and seeing them come to fruition. I may share them, with the leading of the Holy Spirit, but without context and teaching it might not make sense. Just rejoice with me, for I know that, like the tribulation-filled 2010, it will pass, too. Yet, it is a good season and I’m thankful for it.
It feels as if so much has gone on in the past few weeks until it’s difficult to get my head around it, much less articulate all of it on paper. Somewhere in the last month,
1) My husband changed jobs
2) My job changed, forcing me out of my comfort zone and into new uncertainties
3) Dance season began, with unexpected investments in time and money
4) We brought home a puppy (in many ways like having a new baby, I now realize)
Another change that occurred, and I now realize that it was far more significant than I thought initially (since it had become a relatively new habit), was that my MP4 player broke. The little electronic tool that had become the center of my morning devotional crashed and burned, just about the time that my devotional had become routine, and I had no back-up plan.
Somewhere in the midst of all of this, life has happened—school still happens, the house still has to be cleaned and maintained (enhancements are beyond me right now), kids still have to be fed, taken care of, and loved, and a business needs running. I’m not complaining, just stating that I’m overwhelmed. Even in the midst of realizing that it is all for my good (speaking primarily about #2 listed above), I’m just plain whipped out. Seriously.
This week is our fall break after nine weeks of school. Monday was a field trip for the kids and me that somehow wound up being a homeschool trip for 25 people. Tuesday, I felt like I was in the Twilight Zone during a grocery store visit that lasted 2 hours. They rearranged the store, so now I’m relearning shelves, plus I took my girls with me, which didn’t help me focus any on the task at hand. (I wrote that elaborate description of my errand because it is a microcosm of what is happening with my life these days). Wednesday, I sat down to get a better handle on all the changes, and to figure out what all of this means for me. Thankfully, the word that has continuously come my way—from a number of angles– is to prioritize. Thank you, Lord. So I looked at my schedule in blocks of time and embraced the ebb and flow of work that I’ve often taught to my adult students. Here’s what I discovered:
The “non-movables” are here to stay: ministry to my family through school time, non-school family time, couple time, and home management. Since the “non-movables” are a given (thank God), I must submit each day to the Lord’s priorities. And guess what? Some days the non-movables aren’t the priority! That doesn’t mean that they won’t be taken care of, but it means that if I believe the Lord has gifted my mind and hands in this way, then I must make the most of His gift. So, with that in mind,
In the earliest portion of the week (Mondays and Tuesdays), I have time to write, and need to make good, effective use of it.
I have blocks of time later in the week to exercise—a rarity in the house now-a-days. The running joke of the house is whose Mii is sleeping the hardest—we’ve all been really tired.
I set goals on a number of sewing projects that have hung around for far too long. The date written down, even in pencil, gives me hope (LOL)
The time between waking up with my husband and actually getting out of bed is my quiet time with the Lord. However, tuning every other care out in order to focus in is a task for me, and that’s where my player came in handy. I really need another player. My devotional time was priceless, and because of the demands of my family, I was ministered to while operating with free hands to minister to my family through breakfast preparation, last-minute school plan adjustments, etc.
Each day, what God wants, not what I want. Too often, I want to be Superwoman, or at least some version of it based on the images of a woman who does it all, but looks like she does nothing, that suffocate my sense of self. I may not get done all that I want, but there is peace and prosperity in accomplishing His purposes.
Finally, I’m not a slave to social media, but as a business owner, I recognize its power to quick spread the word and disseminate information. I just have to exercise wisdom in being a good steward of when I use these tools and what I use them for. An angel mentioned HootSuite to me, and it’s been a life saver. I can quickly access Twitter and Facebook (and three other networks if I had them) at once and do what I need to do without the 4-hours of time on average that I’ve read as being common to most Facebook users. YIKES!
Okay, this simply scratches the surface of all the places that my mind has been, but just writing it down is energizing. I promised myself that today I’d catch up on my mending (husband has buttons missing on about 4 shirts), and sure enough, I’ve let the weather change catch me regarding finishing my youngest’s bathrobe. We had our first day of 60-degree mornings this week, and she had to stroll around in an unfinished robe. Oh, well! I’m off to complete it now as I listed my deadline as Sunday! God bless!